You are Enough
I have always struggled to define my body type. I’m not tall, I’m not short. I don’t see myself as skinny, but I’m not curvy either. I’m muscular, but I don’t see myself as having an athletic build. In fact, the word that comes into my mind when asked to describe myself is, average.
After much staring in a mirror, and reading definitions of “official” body types, I most closely identify with the rectangular build. Meaning, my shoulders and hips are nearly the same width, while my waist curves in only slightly. Which apparently is good news, according to the definition. It means that I can wear a majority of clothes without many problems. Clothes hang on me, much like they would a hanger. Great.
By the time I was reading the “perks” of my body type, it was a small consolation. Because as I stood there staring into the mirror longer and longer, who I am faded away, until all I could see were my flaws. My messy natural hair that will never be straight, or shiny enough. The dark marks on my face from years prior, when my skin acted up, more than it behaved. The shoulders I think are too broad, the chest I think is too small… The waist I wish was smaller. The curves I wish I had, and that damn thigh gap that will never be big enough! As my daily self critique swirled in the silence of my room, thats when it hit me…
Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we pick ourselves apart, when so often, the world does that for us? Why do other people have to say we’re beautiful for us to even have a chance of believing it ourselves? Because we all are so much more than a body. We are radiant souls, trapped in imperfection…and thats OK. You heard me, I said its ok. The most beautiful people are happy people. And happiness doesn’t come in sizes, or body types, or perfect proportions. You can’t take it off a hanger, and put it on (although I firmly believe having your feet in a beautiful pair of shoes can help).
As I grow up, because I most certainly still am, I am learning to accept my body and even embrace its flaws. Find the things you love about yourself, physical or not, and focus on them. Let those things influence your fashion choices. And always let the clothing you wear make you feel good about yourself. Fashion is about having fun, and everyone is entitled to have that.